To the Haters out there....God loves Ya!

Ready for a rant? If not, don't read further!

First of all, please understand that this is my own personal rant. Not incited by any particular individual, just a bunch of circumstances in general! My thoughts, my opinions, and my responsibility! My blog is my sounding board, my grief relief, my adoption journey, and sometimes I just need to write about my feelings!
Putting your thoughts on paper or in a personal journal is one thing, but putting them out there for the whole world to see takes a bit more bravery and confidence! I enjoy writing. I enjoy expressing myself. I enjoy having the freedom to do so! So.....here goes my rant for the week!

WHY is it that even when you are trying your best to do something good, there are people who make it their life's mission to try and mess things up??  I call them "Haters". My definition of a "hater" comes from a speech by Maya Angelou, given during the Gracie Awards in 2009. She says,

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all
their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever
good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some
haters…That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your
blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you
blessed…

I am blessed. I am blessed with a wonderful family, a faith in God, and people I am proud to be associated with as friends and co-volunteers in a great cause. I have been so happy to be involved in a cause for Hydranencephaly (Chrissy's medical diagnosis). It has given me a new sense of being needed and of being able to help others. After losing Emily, I was lost and adrift. I needed a cause! It has been my pleasure to watch the Brayden Alexander Global Foundation for Hydranencephaly blossom and bloom into an organization that WILL succeed and make a great contribution to the lives and families of the children who have this diagnosis. Being an administrator on the Family 2 Family Resource Support Group on Facebook has been a delight as well!   I have "met" and learned to love so many new families and children. I truly love them all. It is wonderful to share views, advice, solutions to problems, and all the miraculous things our children do each day. I pray so hard daily for each family and each child. And I pray for the success of the Founder of this organization, that she will continue to be a strong advocate and be able to see this mission to it's fullest potential. Alicia Harper is a good person, a smart woman, and a compassionate friend to all our kids and families. It hurts me to see her personally attacked and be-littled when she has done nothing but want the best for her son and all our kids. It is not about the ego for Alicia. It is ALL about the families and what we can do for them!  So, the haters need to leave her, and the Global Foundation alone. We have no animosity towards anyone. No animosity towards any other organization. Quite the contrary, we have nothing but good wishes for their endeavors. Two Foundations with different missions should be able to co-exist peacefully and each pursue their own vision in their own way. There is no need to drag families, individuals, or anything else into some half-baked idea of a "competition"! There is no competition!! Why should there be?  All everyone should want is success for both organizations in their separate missions! 


Here is the problem, again from Maya. She says:


We’ve all got some haters among us!  People envy you because you can:
Have a relationship with God
Light up a room when you walk in
Start your own business
Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
Haters can’t stand to see you happy, Haters will never want to
see you succeed, Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our
haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having
a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not
defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not
human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams!
You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth,
you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled
‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can
tell your haters, Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’
Maya Angelou 

Oh my gosh, so true! I LOVE this speech! My intentions are true and correct. I believe Alicia, and Holly and Heather and Sarah and all our wonderful families and volunteers for the organization have pure, true and correct principals and intentions. While we are busy spreading awareness, brainstorming ideas to further the cause and help our families and children; growing the Foundation by leaps and bounds, the "Haters" are busy spreading malicious lies, spending all their time figuring out how to "stop" us, making untrue accusations about timelines and legalities and trademarking infringements, and the list goes on and on and on and on.....

Wake up and smell the roses everyone involved!! The proof of intentions is in the works of the individual!!  


Don't be a "hater", be a supporter! Of ALL people and all good endeavors. Be a good person. None of us know how long we have on this earth. Between illness and accidents and evil in the world, we are all here by the Grace of God. 
When I go HOME, I hope God will say of me, "well done, thou good and faithful servant". Isn't that what we all should want?  


Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Don't let your sight be limited. Ignore the "haters" in the world. Be happy, be blessed, do good for others. Look over the horizon for the things that are truly important in life!  

And for the haters out there.....remember, God Loves You Too!!  As He forgives, so we forgive also.....